I too wonder if she was someone filling in, it might not be unheard of if it's really busy in the FBC I guess? If you want, feel free to PM me the name of the middie and I'll see if I recognise it, I've been through the FBC twice now.
dee, don't stress about it all
you've seen the size of me (about 5'6, i think?) and my ds was 10pnds3oz. i had him vaginally but i did use pain relief.
honestly, it's not worth stressing about anything just based on one person looking at you, iykwim?
Dee, I was told I was having a "larger than average" baby with DD - she was 6lb7oz and 46cm so she was TINY. They can NOT tell by feel. Anyway it doesn't matter how heavy the baby is as the weight can be due to many different factors eg. length as others have mentioned.
Your baby will be the perfect size for you! There's no way of telling absolutely what size your baby will be. The position of your baby and an active labour will help enormously no matter what size your baby is.
Dee, hun, don't let the midwife rattle your cage. My sister was HUGE and her bub was 3kg - no one can tell until the little darling arrives.
I've no idea what you are planning for your birth (tho I'm guessing it's a natural birth if you're heading to a BC), but you can have whatever birth you want - just trust yourself and have faith in yourself. And if you're worried about the same midwife - or any other - rattling your cage during your birthing experience, tell them when you get to the BC to keep any thoughts/opinions on pain relief etc to themselves unless asked. This is where your birth partner can come in handy - you have more important things to focus on.
What the midwife did was undermine your confidence to birth your baby ... in the lead-up to your birthing experience, think positive, talk positive and regain your confidence, because you can birth your baby, whatever size it may be.
Try not to take it too seriously, i was told mu bub was little and he was 8 pound 8 ounces not exactly small! my girlfriend was told her baby wouldbe close to 11 pound, her baby was just over 9 pound!
They really should not even try to guess as in my experience it is rarely accurate.
You are right hun, you are made to do it and you will be fine, good luck and i'm still sending you good labour vibes
xxxx
Thankyou so much everyone I just keep coming in and re reading all these posts trying to find my feet again.....
I know I am an emotional wreck at the moment but I am sitting here in tears..... just had to hang up on my mum.....
She decided that now is a good time to tell me that I probably won't be able to birth this baby naturally and because I am soooooooooo overdue (um 3 days is not even ratable on the overdue scale) I should just have the c-section now as I don't want to kill the baby by "overcooking" it....
My mum has NEVER laboured naturally she was booked in for 2 c-sections as she was told she is too small to have babies and my bro and I were tiny babies neither of us over 6lb, but they never even let her try......
I feel so horrible for going off my head and hanging up on her but I need to BELIEVE that I can do this and prior to this stupid midwife yesterday I honestly didn't have a single doubt in my head that I would be completely capable and would just do it .....
Now I am chanting to myself that I can do it but I just don't believe it anymore....
So angry at the MW and my mum for doing this but even more angry at myself for letting them.....Argh!
Someone get me some valium and a straight jacket.....
Hi Dee,
Don`t let this MW rain on your parade hun! I was told with my 5 pg, that all my bubs were "big", but i carried such alot of fluid. Don`t worry yourself over it,you`ll be fine,my heaviest bub was 3.7kg- so not an Elephant like the MW & Doctors thought & boy did i rub it into their faces,lol. Good luck,hun
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