Thanks so much for your replies ladies! I was really really badly traumatised after my first birth which was the spontaneous, so I was very focused on having a completely different outcome the second time which I did.

I have now decided that I will try for spontaneous ( I have a very supportive OB, so it is not a problem as far as he is concerned) and will be making sure I am well supported with the birth. To be honest that actually delivery does not concern me, just a long drawn out labour, and with my first I did not feel that I had enough support. 2nd I had a friend with me as well as DH and she was awesome, and have now arranged for a support person for this, so fingers crossed this birth will be the best yet!