In my personal experience in both labour 1 and 2, VE's were performed to determine how ripe my cervix was as both bubs 'needed' to be induced due to IUGR. I was okay with that (well, not really okay about being induced but it was certainly a better option than a c/s). I wasn't given a VE after being induced and had a relatively quick 4.5hr labour. The MW was wonderful and watched me, asked a few questions and could see what stage I was at.

2nd labour (also induced) I had many VE's (and I WISH I had said 'NO'), very frustrating.....no progress. Synto turned on and off and 1 midwife who lived in the dark ages and couldnt even read the CTG machine (DH found a ruler and 'taught' her how to read it....I mean 'COME ON!)

Anyway, as JB said, it was disappointing and really does your head in. 33 hours after initial synto induction I convinced myself that I was heading towards a c/s. I had refused all drugs (as I had laboured without it with my first) and I thought my time was up. Luckily Dr was FABULOUS and so was MW who had just come on duty and talked me into believing in my ability again.

VE's are really uncomfortable normally, but during labour they are horrendous. Personally I think they hurt more than labour itself.

BUT sometimes they are necesary. It's up to you to decide what you want and how you are treated before and during labour.