Have you written a birth plan? You should definitely do this and discuss it with a midwife next time you have an appointment. Most of them are pretty good at following your wishes.

I'd also recommend staying home as long as possible (if you feel comfortable of course!), I always felt much more relaxed in my own environment and it helped with my labours.

I'm sure you will have a great experience this time around - 2nd labours tend to be much easier and you know what to expect which helps.

Best of luck

BTW - I love your DS's name - it was top of our list if our DD was a boy