Jaime, you are right, both don't seem to be ideal support people if they think what you don't want! You need someone who is going to push you past that, if they think you need an epi now, how are they going to be when it comes to the crunch or if you havea crisis? Check out my Birth Support link in my signature, if money is an issue and you would like a student at lower cost, let me know and I can help. But it's well worth the investment especially considering birth is something you are going to look back at forever and tell your story over. It's precious - go for the birth you want and find the right people to support you!

All the best for a wonderful birth!