IMHO, I think birth plans are ultimately for you, not the middies or Drs, they may read it and listen but the MAY have their own agenda. Whilst it would be nice to rock up and say " I'll have an intervention free birth with a side of gas please", things can chance once you are there and if a medical professional speaks sternly to you (for eg.) about needing a cs, epidural or "failure to progress" (watch out for that too!) it can be very, very off putting.

Its GREAT your DH is so determined to be informed - it really is. There may come a point where you don't want to communicate with anyone, so DH can do that for you. Get him on here too if you like and keep informing yourselves of the mechanics of birth etc. Get a copy of The Business of Being Born, go to private birth education classes run by those with similar thoughts about birth as you and decide between yourselves what you will do in the event of x, y and z.

and best of all - GET A DOULA!!! They can help interpret things for you and DH and support you BOTH to get the outcome you desire.

I'd never have another bubba without one!

xoxoxo