I know the birht plan is more preferences, I'm trying to prepare myself and DP for the chance that things may not go the way we want. Hence the original question. We wanted to know when we should speak up about what the doc says, whats true and whats just them trying to hurry things along so they can go home for dinner.
I would love to do all of that stuff but we are so broke right now. Not a cent to spare as it is. I dont really know where to start with any of it either.

It is great that DP wants to know everything about everything but he wants me to do all the research for him and tell him because he doesnt like reading. I'm useless at explaining things as it is, let alone with this stupid preggo brain. lol So I've compromised (I am at home all day as it is, while he's studying) I'll look up the info and he has to read it. but he wont read it on the comp, so I have to print it. Then I print it and hes too tired from tafe to read it and retain the info. grr. I feel like I have to do everything when its him that wants all the answers!

*ahem* /end vent

Well I want answers too but I browse around online most of the day and get them. I cant print EVERY page I read. There'd be no paper left for anyone else in QLD. lol

What about a trainee doula, they do it for free dont they, because they're studying? Is it too late for me to get one? Where do I even start with that? Is that a good option for me being a first timer or would I need someone more experienced?
How do I convince DP that a doula is a good idea?