I was worried about my second labour because my first was 31 hours and I ended up with an epidural and vacuum extraction for Viv.

I spoke to my family - DH and my Mum - about my fears for some time - perhaps from 30 weeks on or even earlier, and I came to the conclusion that it WAS going to be a totally different experience from the first labour so to just 'let it happen'.

Well, I could not have been more surprised, happy and empowered with my labour second time round.

I enjoyed the 'wave' of each contraction; yes it was a very strong sensation however I could recognise the peak of each one and knew it was one less contraction until I delivered. I used what I call positive breathing - visualising breathing crystal clear white light/air into my lungs with each breath and using that positive force to help cope. I also affirmed in my head that my body/cervix was opening with each breath and each contraction and it was all such a positive preparation for when it was time to push. (The inner hippy in me was obviously calling!)

I also used the physical contact with my DH to help me through each contraction - sure I was squishing the life out of his hand, however it helped me by knowing he was supporting me through it. The physical contact gave me extra strength.

When it came to time to push, it was the most amazing experience because I HAD CONTROL as apposed to the epi I'd have with DD. I KNEW I could do it. I was so empowered.

You are not stupid. You are a strong, capable woman who will be able to cope with the pain because it will bring you your beautiful child.

Relax and welcome the journey.