I think it shows a distinct lack of respect to you both when family members refuse to stay put and wait to be invited to meet the new family member. It's not a *right* and I think it should happen when you are ready for it to happen. If you were going to be in hospital, they all have pretty strict visiting hours, so there would be no huge drama with getting them to leave etc, but if you can't avoid it at home, then make sure that when you've had enough, or when baby's had enough, then it is made very clear that they are to leave. There will be plenty of time to meet the baby so it doesn't have to happen in the first day or so - even for those that have travelled they can still be told politely to bugger off and leave you be LOL - don't be worried about offending them. What I would be starting to do now is make it very clear that ALL visitors are to call first and arrange a suitable time to come and visit becuase there is nothing worse than people just dropping in unannounced when you might be taking a nap or feeding etc. You could also not tell them that you are home for a day or so to buy yourself some time as well - again, make sure everyone is crystal clear that you will call them and let them know when you are home and up for visitors. And if all that fails and you do need the time out, then go into your room to feed or have a snooze etc, and if they get all huffy about it, it's their problem not yours.