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I think you just need to do what's best for YOU, not them. I went home the day after Emily was born, and as it was my birthday that day, I had all my family and my DH's family around for dinner. They couldn't believe how organised I was, and how I was really keen on having them all there! But that's what I wanted.
With Nina though, I didn't have a very good recovery at first, so I had to ask friends not to come until I was home and settled.
You might feel differently once bub is here, or you may not. Just evaluate things once bub is here and see how you feel.
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Yes, omg everyone who can to visit wanted to hold Claire. It was so annoying. Like when I was just picking her up to feed her and someone would walk into the room uninvited and try to pick her up out of my arms whie I was trying to get comfy to feed her. Stupid idiots! After a few people doing that I started saying no. I wish DH had more brains - i cant believe he couldnt see that I didnt want anyone else to touch her!
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Don't tell anyone until you go home! Then request that they give you 2 days notice prior to visiting (immediate family excluded if you like).
I really think we as mothers need to take control over that situation again. I cracked it with my first, I was in labour, a LONG 47.5 hour labour, and my XP father was at the hospital almost the whole time, taking my XP out of the room to ask how I was going, blah blah... Yeah I get he was excited, his first grandchild but GEEZ!
This time around, I only told people that I wanted to come visit, and told them to keep it quiet until I told other people. I had 4 visitors at the hospital
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That gave me a giggle! I was the same
MY baby, don't touch! I should have made a sign!
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"My baby. Touch at own risk"
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