I just wanted to add that Alan approached me before posting this, I gave him permission. Its not about scare tactics, yes anyone could have gotten golden staph for anything, but the point of it is, like any major surgery, a caesarean should always be used as last resort or if there is a medical problem.

People are so fast to share bad stories about vaginal births and how great pain relief is, everyone should have an epidural, etc. but it seems politically incorrect to share negative caesarean experiences. I see no problem sharing a story which is just another sad outcome of birth. There are lots of women here who have vocalised bad vaginal experiences too, so I see this as just an important post. There was no malice intended and again, permission was sought.

The more I learn about birth, the more shocked I am and the more I wish I could just tell it like it was - but I am sure many would leave the forum too as it's far too confronting. So I often bite my tongue. There are so many midwives out there too, like a bull at a gate, dying to voice realities but if you don't say it the right way or are seen to come across as being anti-choice, you get shot down.