Ok, having a bit of a dilema.

Shel and I are having trouble trying to work out who we want to be our support people.
Basically, we don't want anyone else. But everyone seems to be thinking they can invite themselves, well by everyone I mean my mum, my sister, my godmother, my SIL, MIL and someone Shel works with.
BTW, I have only met this particular wokrmate 2 or 4 times, and only for 5-10 minutes at a time, and she is already decided that she is going to be called grandma and when she sees me asks about 'our' baby like she has some sort of claim (which isnt the issue just letting you know the background).

I personally wouldn't mind having someone else there for Shel, but when I talk about my birth preferences they all laugh at me trying to have a natural birth. I don't have any reason really, not trying to prove anything I would just prefer to do it naturally, without drugs or intervention, if I can to avoid possible complications and bub being born with drugs in her system. It's just what I would prefer, but if theres a medical reason or I find my pain threshold isn't as high as it could be then I won't be putting myself or bub in danger os distress etc. But basically I don't want people there saying I need an epidural - I know its there and I'll ask for it if I think I need it. We have talked about a doula but decided against it for personal reasons.
All of them (bar my sister) has had children, and everyone (including my sister) except my mum thinks an epidural is the way to go. Mum is not going to be there for other reasons, like her opinion that Shel doesn't need to be there, and not understanding that it's the birth of her baby too, but I won't go there right now.

Anyway, so I have said no I don't want any of them there as I don't want people around me who don't trust that I know how much I am capable of.

That's offended a few people, and most think I am naive for even thinking about not using pain medication.

Anyway, SIL, MIL, and Shel's workmate decided amongst themselves that they'll be waiting outside the birth suite when I go into labour. SIL and MIL I can kind of understand, yes they'll be excited, but I'm so annoyed at Shel's workmate who seems to think she's an extremely important part of the birth of our (NOT HERS) baby.
Well I've now offended people who seemed to think I was going to be playing pass the baby with a not even 24 hour old newborn. I have told them no visitors for 24 hours. Shel and I agree - we just want that time for us. I am apparently denying them of their RIGHT to see their newborn grandchild/niece. We aren't going to have a logistical issue, the midwives will keep out pesky visitors for that first 24 hours, just everyone who is offended and thinks I am being too controlling.

Am I being too controlling? I know the birth people is my choice, I am the birthing woman and I need to be comfortable and trust my birth partners, which at the moment is only Shel. But am I being too controlling by not allowing visitors for the first 24 hours?
GEEZ, I could be following Buddhist tradition and have no visitors for 7 days and then in the one month where no one but the parents can hold the baby.
And is it normal for every man, woman and dog to be wanting to wait outside the birth suite for me to birth our baby????