Great idea Michael. I agree that I would not be letting them in the hospital at all - how are you going to be relaxed and focussed with that going on? If it came to that I wouldn't tell anyone that you are in labour until it's all over.

To answer your question, you are not being unreasonable, and no it's not normal for people to want to do that. My MIL asked to be at the birth but wasn't offended when I said no, and didn't suggest waiting at the door either. You and Shel need your time hun, and bonding with bub is something best done without all and sundry there. Stick to your guns and know that you doing the right thing.

And as for the pain free birth - I bet you can do that too! Have you read New Active Birth? If not, I highly recommend it. I found it so helpful. I also know from experience that the fear of not being able to cope is the biggest reason for agreeing to an epidural - not the pain itself. Have faith in yourself, you were made to do this and I am quite sure you can. You show 'em hun!!