You are being completely reasonable and should stick to your guns. My parents are separated and don't like to be around each other and I certainly did not want my parents hanging around for weeks on end. My husband and I wanted to share our time with our new baby- not entertain people for weeks.

For this reason I was completely blunt with my family and friends regarding visiting etc. I may have offended them but hey- my baby comes first.

I told my mum if she really wanted to meet her grandchild she would have to tolerate being around dad otherwise she will have to wait a couple of weeks before meeting her grandchild. I also told everyone there would be no one staying over etc- we all need our space.

Anyways- it all worked out and we had our time with our baby and shared her too. Don't let anyone steal this precious time from you. Your baby, your terms!

Good luck