Thank you so much everyone for your responses. I guess I just have one of those families that are a tad hard to deal with. And the fact that we are not close with my Mother makes it hard, as she is the one wanting to come first and stay for 2 weeks etc.

I mentioned it the other day, and explained that as I was given a different due date at the dating scan to what I got at the 12 week scan, I will discuss this with the Doctor on Tuesday (today) and ask him which due date they will go by when it comes to inducing, or letting me go over by etc. I then explained that once he does that, I will say work out when would be the latest they will let me go over, and add on some time for DH and I to get used to it all, and then tell her when would suit to come over and stay. I did get a quiet tone on the end of the phone, but not as bad as the last time. I had the Doctors today who said even though the 12 week scan showed my original due dates were right, they still want to go by the 7.5 week dating scan dates. So I called Mum and said "Ok, so they say my EDD is 26th Feb, with the possibility of going 10 days over, plus adding on 1.5 weeks for DH and I to settle down before ANYONE stays. It would be great if you could be there from the 8th March onwards. If I go earlier then it just means we will be even more settled by the time you get there. And once DH goes back to work I will probably be grateful for the help." I think she is ok with it, and I am guessing she has spoken to friends about it as she said she will probably only stay for 1 week now (Yay, that sounds better than 2).

Thanks so much everyone for making me feel more comfortable with our decision. Sometimes it is hard when our family act like children and make us feel like we are being nasty, when really we are being realistic. I appreciate all of your advice