So I asked my H about his thoughts on this. His first response was the "your body, our baby" line and he thinks fathers deserve a say in the birth process... only if the mother isn't responsible enough to make a good choice. We're talking pretty extreme. Like a drug addict who decides to free birth in the bush. He thinks Dad should be able to call it in for the sake of the baby. I'm unsure on that one still. I don't think a woman should ever be made to undergo any procedure she doesn't consent to.

We realised though that there is no real room for compromise in this choice. There are only two people voting. If multiple people were voting you could average the results but this way you're only going to get 100%-0% or 50%-50%. In the case of 50%-50% we agree the woman gets veto power, except if she's not usually the sort of mother who makes safe choices about her pregnancy/children, then he thinks the man should get veto.