Hi,

Well I can definitely understand and agree with his points in terms of the neo cortex and beingspoken to etc and the bonding after birth but I have to say that anyone who comes into contact with a women in labour can cause problems because of these things (what about being asked questions by midwives when you reach the hospital) If a support person (man or women, dad to be, mother, friend, aunt whoever) knows these things they can be a great birth partner however they could also be a bad birth partner if they do the wrong things!

I personally know that I would NEVER choose to give birth without my husband there. In terms of the sexual relationship prior to the labour Phil said he wouldn't watch Noah crowning and being born etc he would just stay up nest to me (because he said if he saw he would never look 'down there' the same again but half way through labour he changed his mind and said he would watch the whole thing - he did and loved it. The experience has bought us closer together, I don't know what labour would be like without Phil, I don't know if I could handle it!