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My DH is the exact same! God knows I've tried. I booked a Calm Birth course thinking that maybe if he was involved in a class it would mean he could just absorb - but he did none of the follow up. Then I bought him Birth Skills (JuJu Sundin) and thought it had pictures and summaries so he could skim......it's still on the bedside table.

When I had it out with him in a hormonal rage the other day he simply said "I am just not interested - sorry!"

Now this would make him sound extremely horrible and selfish - and in a way it is - but on the other hand he is the kind of guy that does well under pressure and thinks well on his feet.

He knows my birth plan and wishes and when faced with intense situations, he actually does pretty well.

I think men are wired differently to women and if you ask a man to research which is the best oil for their motorbikes they'll have the patience to read it. But ask them to research the hormonal responses in natural labour etc - you may as well put the fake open eye glasses on them because I'll tell ya their brains have already gone to sleep.

I tried guilting him into it, saying he'd regret it down the track and I'll blame him if I don't get what I need from him on the day - but it still didn't make a difference.

But when I said to him "so if I am told that I need AROM to get things moving and I can't respond, what will you say" and bugger me if he didn't answer me perfectly.

So although I agree that it's really important that your partner be up on the information, some just don't have the same yearning for research - but I'll bet if you spend 9 months explaining what you want and why some will sink in