Alish, I don't think anyone is judging, you asked for advice and people are just offering what they know from their experience and all babies and situations are different

If she is bright eyed, good output etc then I wouldn't wake her for feeds. Is she putting on weight? If she is then she must be feeding enough, if she isn't then you might want to try adding extra feeds.
Everything is so fluid when they are so little, you think you have a nice routine going and then they hit the next growth spurt/wonder week etc and everything changes again. You will probably find she will be more awake after the three week growth spurt that is coming up - don't be surprised if she is suddenly wanting to feed, feed, feed for a day or so, then she will sleep heaps for a day or two.