I have to do a bit more thinking about it in general and probably really wouldn’t know until the situation arose.

But, as far as being dead goes, I really can’t see having someone else bf my child be a possibility. The logistics of that are just impossible – we don’t live in the kind of communities that allow that easy substitution. Ie DH would still be looking after the child, and say my close friend who is due at the same time could theoretically bf. He would somehow need to transport either the child or at least the milk (and then you miss out on the whole neurological being “at the breast” thing) 20 mins each way for each feed. Totally impractical. And all the extra time the friend would have to spend feeding or expressing. Too much burden.

Still more to think about though.