Wow, I'm so sorry you're going through this. TBH I've never heard of breastfeeding affecting the bladder. I'll be interested to hear what Barb says on that.

When you say it's "stress incontinence" is it caused by stress? Sorry, I'm a bit confused. Do you believe it's hormonal? or do you think it's emotional?

I really hope you can find some answers.. and I hope you can find a solution that maybe allows for part-time breastfeeding or something. If it's an emotion-induced problem I would think you'd have to very carefully weigh up how stopping breastfeeding would affect you. And btw.. well done on the successful feeding so far Whatever the outcome you've given her a wonderful start

*big big hugs*