oh wow, we hadn't discussed medical/drug options.... that is interesting - i wonder what type of incontinence it is for? what sort did you have, stress or urgency or what? mine is so severe, honestly, if i am standing up i am literally wetting myself... i am fine sitting or laying down, but standing i am hopeless.... if only i could go through life laying down...!!

i have seen a physio and while she was reassuring about giving things more time to recover etc, i am not sure if she specialises in this sort of thing, so i might look for one who does...

i am still sore inside at 5 weeks, but just on one side.... i am thinking this might actually be a good thing, as it shows i still have'nt recovered, so there is a chance things may improve...

i suppose i just need to accept that the next 3-4 months are going to be horrible and i won't be leave the house too much.... then when enough time has passed if things aren't any better i can look at surgery and get things fixed (hopefully)... its a hard thing to accept though, these circumstances, but i think instead of fixating on it and constantly thinking how awful i feel, if i just accept it and get on with things, then maybe i will feel better somehow. not sure if that makes sense.