Oh hun, how awful for you

I agree with the suggestions to see a physio. I had minor stress incontinence long after DS2 weaned. I'd been doing exercises and nothing had helped. Then I looked up a physio specializing in women's health and it was the best thing I did. Turns out mine wasn't just about muscle strength but also to do with my funny spine. She went through lots of strategies with me and in a few weeks it was actually fixed. I couldn't believe it. If only i'd seen her earlier.

Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that a physio can probably help you. All the best hun, I really hope you find some relief soon.