Hi,

All sorts of things work for families. If there is another bed, why don't you and your baby go sleep there - leaving your dh and your son to themselves? Or you can try a little controlled comforting - but I really think your DH has to be prepared to help with this. It's not fair on you - it doesn't sound like you are faring to well on the current arrangements either. Will it really be better if you have to get up to bottle feed her? It's the habit that needs to be broken - or accepted. (either way is fine)