Ren, you're doing a fabulous job honey, it really is hard work, bit it DOES get better.

I really think you need a good LC to come to your house. Hopefully Barb will pop in here and be able to recommend one in your area. In fact I would go so far as to suggest that you PM her and tell her where you live, and ask for a recommendation. And include a link to this thread so she can come and read about what's happening.

In the meantime it's really important that you feed every 2-3 hours. I would suggest giving her 20 minutes on each side and then trying to settle her. You might find that if she's crying for awhile afterwards you can put her back on the second side for a bit. Try not to watch the clock too much, and don't worry that it's 'too soon'. There's no such thing when it comes to BF babies! This might feel like a hellish vicious circle, but once Ava gets the hang of what's going on, and how to be hungry (ie. demand food) things will settle down somewhat.

It's great that you're only feeling pain for the first 8 seconds, but I still think it's a good idea to check your attachment, JIC there's something going on there. I can't remember if you said, has someone checked for TT?

Skin to skin feeding sounds brilliant, it will really help things, although it might not be immediately apparent. Just chill out with your baby, rest on the couch, or lie in bed, watch TV, sleep, whatever appeals. Try to make your day as relaxing as possible.

Sorry to be garbled again I really recommend getting on to Barb with that PM. You can do this Ren, you will get there!

Guys lets remember that although it is normal for older BF babies to go some time without a poo, it's not normal for newborns. We like to see them pooing at least once a day.