My son was born under similar circumstances. I had a episiotomy and still tore 3rd degree down into the muscle around the "back". My DS was born via suction cap due to his heart rate failing during contractions.
Since then ive been recommended to have a C/S for my next baby, for similar reasons as yourself.
Ive been worring and stressing over the birth of this baby before he/she was concieved. I found my last labour and birth very traumatic (Not too mention the risks of faecal incontinence.)and therefor have booked myself in for a C/S. (with the option to change my mind) I did however find as much info on the subject from both sides. Mostly talking to mothers who have gone through similar situations. It helped me find my own choice.. what felt right for me.
I have found not a great deal of support for this choice. I actually don't tell many people due to the snide looks or remarks.
Good luck with your decision. One way or the other.. enjoy the birth!
Thanks for telling me your story Tascha - it really is so helpful to hear from other people who have been through the same thing.
Was starting to feel like a bit of a freak as no-one else I know has had a similar experience and faecal incontinenence is certainly never one of the main reasons they list for having a caesarean when you read all the books on caesareans.
I think you're absolutely right that at the end of the day you have to decide what's right for you as you are the one who has to live with the outcome of whatever route you choose. I think I am in the same boat as you at this stage and am definitely leaning towards a C/S as attempting a VB just seems like in my situation it's not worth the risk.
Thank you so much for responding and all the very best with your decision.
Thank you for the links Alan to those articles - some very interesting reading.
Tascha - Boo to the snide remarks and looks. You're not a celebrity opting for a CS for convenience - you have valid medical concerns and you've made the right choice for you. in many ways I think birth and child rearing can bring out the worst in people as far as enforcing personal opinions . All the best with the birth.
KMond,
You are most welcome. I know how you are feeling so thought to share. I like to be able to talk to people who understand. So I might be back to see how you are going with this journey. Compare notes if you will! Untill then
sas85,
BIG thank you! And you are totally right .. my body, my child, my choice.
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