Thanks girls for the info
SS yes i mean VB not VB been in LTTTC too long!!!
OB was very keen on the idea of letting me have a vb as she said as long as i would have an episiotomy it should be fine as they will cut away from my back passage but when she examined me she said the perineum is just so short that its bound to happen again and really i see the embarrasement and pain my mum has gone through for years because of her prolapse, not fun and something i dont think i want to risk. I like that idea of going into labour first that makes total sense must check that out.
Lisa hope my recovery is as good as yours i think the most important thing to me is being able to feed and cuddle nothing else matters Again thanks soo much for taking the time to reply