Scooby - I am sorry that you suffered so much pain with your first birth. I had an elective c-section for DS, and my doctor took him out at 39 +1 weeks. But most hospitals/OB's have their own sort of preferred time line, as well as what actually happens ie, recovery.
My section was fine, I healed great (can't really even see my scar 18 months later) and I was up and walking the next morning (albeit very slowly!!!).
Unfortunately BFing didn't work for us, but I doubt that had anything to do with the c-section, more just bad advice from midwives, and poor attachment, and the fact that DS had neck issues which did not help him attach at all without pain.

My sister has also had 4 c-sections, and she said that she heals better each time, and she has BF 3 of her children successfully (one of her c-sections was a stillborn).

If I can help with any other information from either my experience, or my sister's, please feel free to ask away!!

I'm curious though, as I am going for my VBAC - when you say that your perineum is short - how short is "short"? Cos I have always thought that mine was quite close to my girlie bits and would be interested (if you are willing to share) as to what they consider short to be. (I've never thought to ask my OB, I'm a little shy.. )