CS after VBAC

[scooby]

Hi girls
Almost a little scared to post as i am only 9 weeks pregnant, but i think i have to prepare myself. I had 3rd degree tear with my son (tore through my bowel) and was told when it happened that next time i would have to have a CS. Well its taken me a long time to get preg again and i knda thought that maybe i woould give a vb another go, but saw my ob yesterday who initally said i cant see why not, but on further discussion and examination said there is just not enough room and that the same will definately happen again. Exactly same thing happened my mum and she now has prolapse bowel, therefore CS is really the only option. So im just wondering when are CS generally done do you go to full term (40 weeks) or is it done earlier and is recovery as bad as everyone says ? would love some advise. thanks