I think it's one of those very subjective descriptions. I personally don't feel that I "gave birth" to my son (cs), rather that he was "delivered", but I know of at least one person who feels the same about her vb, so it's clearly entirely subjective. I can say though that I think it's incredibly unfair and unreasonable to attempt to define someone *else's* experience by one's own parameters. So what your friend said was very uncool in my book.