I'm stuck on the fact that you prefaced it with "a friend said"... Really? That's not how friends treat each other. Especially when one of them has been through what you and Miss A have been through.
THIS!!!!

Personally I would've been tempted to slap her upside the head if I'd overheard it. Of course you gave birth! You gave birth to a wonderful little fighter who is going to go on and have an amazing and healthy life.