Giving birth via c section?

[LysnDan]

Those of you mummies who have had c sections (elective or other) do you class it as 'giving birth'?

I'm sort of struggling with it because one of my friends piped up and told me I didn't give birth because she didn't come from my vjayjay! *bullcrap!* I was so angry with this...

I got her here safely. (with the doctors help)... I feel like I have given birth. I went through pregnancy, she just came out the sunroof instead.

Finally not feeling guilty like I used to about birthing miss A too early. And then a 'friend' goes and says this! Way to go lol

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[*Twinkle*]

Absolutely do. I also get mad when people mention its not actually giving birth. It is, it's just not the 'natural' way, it was via the sun roof


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[~~Snoogans~~]

I had both my girls via *the sunroof* (love this description lol)

I went through 9 months of pregnancy, I have 2 healthy lil girls and feel I didn't miss a thing having them via c section.

Must be honest, I really don't understand people who say that due to having bubs via c sections, that it's not really giving birth. Pooh to yr friend!

[Doing my best]

What does she refer to it as??

But yes I consider it giving birth.. They were still born, just not via the traditional method, and I honestly cannot think of another term to use..

I have had 2 c-sections..

[LysnDan]

She just says its the easy way out! I could have smacked her right then and there!

I've had a VB. (With my stillborn son) and I've had an emergency c section due to severe pre eclampsia and iugr caused by absent end diastolic flow. I had no choice. I was 29 weeks into pegnancy.

At first I was disappointed at the method in which I birthed miss A in, but now I realised, had they induced me for a VB I probably would have died, as would have miss A.

She just made me angry.

Its a different type of birth. Not one I would have chosen had I had the choice, but when its deemed medically necessary then for god sake!

*breathe*

I need to calm down. I'm so mad and upset that she's said this.

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[Heaven]

The easy way out? That just shows she obviously has NFI. I wouldn't pay attention to her at all.

A c/s is way more difficult on your body IMO. I would choose a VB any day.

[hipmummy]

No way! People like this have no idea! Does she know your siuation?
I have had two VBs however I see what my friends who had caesers went through and I think I got off lightly!
You be proud that you got your baby and yourself the help that you needed and are both safe.
I'd be spending less time with this "friend"

[Purple Penguin]

There's nothing easy about them at all, it's major surgery for crying out loud.

I had c-sections with both my girls, the first was an emergency c-section due to pre-eclampsia, and DD1 being in distress after 20 hours and I found it incredibly traumatic, suffered PND and PTSD due to it. The second I found to be slightly less traumatic but the guilt was horrible.

I've never had someone tell me I took the easy way out, I'd have no issue with explaining them the reasons why it's not easy.

don't let what anyone says interfere with how you come to terms with the way you gave birth, yes, I call it giving birth, the result was a beautiful baby girl.

[jackrose]

i have had a CS and VB and consider them both giving birth. No doubt in my mind.

My VB was absolutely the easy way out in comparison to my CS!

I hope you feel better after reading these responses. I think this thread offers a more informed, real representation of the facts in comparison to your 'friend's' opinion. Truth is, you are one of the people who have experienced both types of birth and are therefore more qualified to hold an opinion on the subject. Still, it does hurt when people are quick to judge with misinformation. All she needed to do was ask you about it rather than tell you her silly opinion.

[Shades]

I think it's one of those very subjective descriptions. I personally don't feel that I "gave birth" to my son (cs), rather that he was "delivered", but I know of at least one person who feels the same about her vb, so it's clearly entirely subjective. I can say though that I think it's incredibly unfair and unreasonable to attempt to define someone *else's* experience by one's own parameters. So what your friend said was very uncool in my book.

[Catastrophic]

You gave birth...

[~Minny~]

I to have struggled with this, but i have come to terms with the fact I did birth both my kids and theres nobody whos ever going to tell me I didnt!

Hope it gets better for you its horrible when its so raw xox

[OceanPrincess]

I'm stuck on the fact that you prefaced it with "a friend said"... Really? That's not how friends treat each other. Especially when one of them has been through what you and Miss A have been through.

[Footsteps]

I agree with OP. Some friend huni. Iv been told Iv got to have a c-sect and hysterectomy when I do have a baby so to me its so if it gets my baby and here safely its still giving birth. Im sorry you'v had to experience that from a so called friend huni...you and miss A are alive and well. Stuff her huni. Huge xxxxxx

[*LittleMissSummer*]

Miss A is here with you so of course you gave birth! What a very stupid, insensitive, ignorant thing to say! After everything you went through to hear such Bull is not what you need.

You birthed your daughter the way you did to bring her into the world healthy.

Boooo to that 'friend' of yours!

[LysnDan]

Yes, funnily enough OP, it was the same group of friend you are speaking of!

She's not a friend anymore!

And just found this...

birth (bûrth) n. 1. The emergence and separation of offspring from the body of the mother. 2. The act or process of bearing young; parturition. 3. The circumstances or conditions relating to this event, as its time or location. 4. The set of characteristics or circumstances received from one's ancestors; inheritance. 5. Origin; extraction

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[Cranky Kitten]

I'm stuck on the fact that you prefaced it with "a friend said"... Really? That's not how friends treat each other. Especially when one of them has been through what you and Miss A have been through.

THIS!!!!

Personally I would've been tempted to slap her upside the head if I'd overheard it. Of course you gave birth! You gave birth to a wonderful little fighter who is going to go on and have an amazing and healthy life.

[LuluHB]

What does your friend call it? I mean, we all have "birth"days so if we're born by c-section do we have a sectionday? Do you say "my baby arrived today" like the stork brought it??

I agree with OP and others that your friend needs to take a good look at herself - NOT the sort of thing a supportive, decent friend would say and not the sort of person you need to be around. Certainly not anyone whose views you should let bother you. I don't understand how anyone could consider major abdominal surgery and long recovery time as the easy way to achieve anything.