Giving birth via c section?

[OceanPrincess]

I'm stuck on the fact that you prefaced it with "a friend said"... Really? That's not how friends treat each other. Especially when one of them has been through what you and Miss A have been through.

[Footsteps]

I agree with OP. Some friend huni. Iv been told Iv got to have a c-sect and hysterectomy when I do have a baby so to me its so if it gets my baby and here safely its still giving birth. Im sorry you'v had to experience that from a so called friend huni...you and miss A are alive and well. Stuff her huni. Huge xxxxxx

[*LittleMissSummer*]

Miss A is here with you so of course you gave birth! What a very stupid, insensitive, ignorant thing to say! After everything you went through to hear such Bull is not what you need.

You birthed your daughter the way you did to bring her into the world healthy.

Boooo to that 'friend' of yours!

[LuluHB]

What does your friend call it? I mean, we all have "birth"days so if we're born by c-section do we have a sectionday? Do you say "my baby arrived today" like the stork brought it??

I agree with OP and others that your friend needs to take a good look at herself - NOT the sort of thing a supportive, decent friend would say and not the sort of person you need to be around. Certainly not anyone whose views you should let bother you. I don't understand how anyone could consider major abdominal surgery and long recovery time as the easy way to achieve anything.

[AlligatorsMum]

I had a c/s earlier this year and it wasn't how I was planning for my LO to be born but all that matters is he is here and healthy. After all isnt that why we go through pregnancy? For the baby and children it brings us - not for the"birth" experience?

Atleast that is why I went through a pregnancy.

[kelebek]

I did struggle at first with the idea that 'I' gave birth... now I have come to the conclusion that 'I' birthed DS with some help and that is ok and no different to those who VB with help (hope that makes sense) I like to think that he came via the emergency exit and can't wait for him to ask so I can show him the scar.

BTW after seeing my sister give birth vaginally and then walk back to her room with bub while I was barely able to walk to the bathroom only a few steps away there is nothing easy about a c/section.

[trishalishous]

you gave birth!
ive not (yet) had a csection, but i consider my vb a walk in the park compared to what you went through!

[Charlotte91]

...just a thought...

I think maybe I would have felt more like I gave birth if I'd actually been in labour at the time. But, I was on nifedapine and just turned up at 6am for my planned c/s.
I don't have any issues with the fact that I had a c/s. I can nearly say I enjoyed it. Planned, simple and calm, recovery was fast for me. I know it was the safest way for DD. She was breech and severely IUGR, my placenta was failing fast.
I just have issues over the way that my body failed my daughter and the fact that it came to having a c/s. The fact that, because of my body, I didn't even have the chance to attempt a VB.

[~Kim~]

I was going to post a similar definition as you've already found, so I won't.
I've had 3 now and I can say honestly that until Holly's I had struggled. Not for what other people thought of them, but for my own expectations being failed.

My experience however is irrelevant to you. Some people have no idea on how what they think is simple can be so difficult for someone else.

[fionas]

I know it goes against the grain but if I really thought about it, the method of giving birth really doesn't matter to me. I don't have a deep-seated need to deliver babies vaginally but I think when I joined BB I kind of got caught up in the idea that a vaginal, drug-free birth is the pinnacle of excellence.

My first VB left me with physical pain that I still have nearly five years later (I had severe SPD which was greatly exacerbated by the pushing position I was in for nearly three hours). It meant that I couldn't be the mum I wanted to be to DD - I couldn't get down on the floor to play with her, could barely leave the house for the first six months because walking was so painful etc. etc. etc.

After that, I couldn't care less really about VB versus caesarean - I just wanted a birth that would leave me with the least amount of physical damage. Once again, when I was pregnant with DD2, I got a little caught up in the idea that a caesarean was a 'cop-out'. Indeed, some people who'd also had SPD, had the arrogance to presume that their SPD must be the same as my SPD and because they had a VB and recovered well, it meant that I should too and anything less meant that I was a bit of a loser.

Luckily, I ignored them and their near-fanaticism and had an elective caesarean with DD2.

I felt better (physically and emotionally) after my caesarean than after my VB. After my caesarean, I felt that I could be the mum I wanted to be.

And, to me, that's all that matters.

Celebrate the way you mother your baby, not how you birthed her. Birth is one tiny part of being a mum. Lovely if it's everything you imagined but really, in the whole scheme of things, not that important (to me).

[Artechim]

Did I read that she is a prem mum too? Perhaps she is upset with her body for not growing her bub to term and whatever other issues there were going on with the pregnancy. So to make herself feel better about everything that went wrong, she is focusing on the thing that went 'right' - giving birth vaginally. Maybe it is a case of blowing out your candle to make hers shine brighter?

Or she is just a stupid B. Of course a C-section is a birth, otherwise you would have a child that was never born.

[Cranky Kitten]

I'm stuck on the fact that you prefaced it with "a friend said"... Really? That's not how friends treat each other. Especially when one of them has been through what you and Miss A have been through.

THIS!!!!

Personally I would've been tempted to slap her upside the head if I'd overheard it. Of course you gave birth! You gave birth to a wonderful little fighter who is going to go on and have an amazing and healthy life.