thread: I already feel like I am being judged.

  1. #19
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    Nov 2004
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    Your baby, your body, your choice.

    All the best. Xoxo

  2. #20
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    Oct 2007
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    Your baby, your body, your choice.
    Yep, not sure why others are even thinking about how you will birth your bub at this stage. Try to ignore and focus you energy on the things important to you.

  3. #21
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    May 2008
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    I couldn't agree more with previous posters, this is your life, your pregnancy, your baby, your choice!!

    Is it possible to be vague about how you plan to birth? maybe if someone asks you you could reply by asking them what position they had sex last night... a bit of a hint that it is none of thier business.

    it is awful that you are feeling this pressure already.

  4. #22

    Jan 2008
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    Thanks girls. I hope I'm just not overreacting. I dont think I am. But I feel I need to put it out there now.

    I have never judged anyone for the way they wanted to give birth. Yes, I do have my opinions on different kinds of births etc, but I would never put my opinions onto anyone else. They are uninformed. I don't sit there and read through every method etc.

    Peanutter: I think Im so alright with the thought of another C section because with Miss H, I didnt really care how she came out as long as she was okay and I was. *hugs*

    Tash: No. These people havent been in my position. Thats what irks me the most.

    Ive also had people say "37 weeks?!?". Yes, 37 weeks. My ob told me that at 37 weeks they are cooked. I'm sure if I get to 37 weeks and he doesn't think that he/she is ready to come out yet he wouldnt C section then. I have also had the "private hospital? just because your going to one doesnt mean it is all going to be okay". Yes, I know that. But it's my ob Im there for not the hospital.

    Anyway, Ill stop ranting now. Thanks everyone for all your support. I'm sure you will all be behind me *hugs*

  5. #23
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    It's your choice and your business, no one elses. You have made your decision, all thats left to be said is enjoy your pregnancy.
    people make this choice all the time, and not always with a reason behind it, so why should you (or anyone for that matter) be judged?
    wishing you a h & h pregnancy

  6. #24
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    I am having an elective Caesar at 38 weeks and I HAVEN'T been through what you have, hugs.

    I couldn't care less what people think of my decision, it's not something that was taken lightly and it was done in discussion with my ob after my failed induction with DD. I've already copped it from a mother at playgroup who told me it was obviously more convenient for me and She assumed it was too hard for me to try a vbac. This from a mother who didn't breastfeed for absolutely no good reason, did I judge her for that? No cos it wasn't my decision to make.

    We are judged through our entire journey as a mother but I think you have to make a decision and take responsibility for that decision and to hell with what anyone else thinks. Don't defend yourself, why should you? You have absolutely no reason to.

    Fwiw, I loved my Caesar and I hope you will too hon!

  7. #25

    Jan 2008
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    Your right. I dont know why Im letting insignificant people make me feel like this. I am happy with my decision, so is DF. Oh I have dreams about this c section. How great it will be. Hearing a screaming baby etc. Maybe I will just focus on that

  8. #26
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    Oh I have dreams about this c section. How great it will be. Hearing a screaming baby etc. Maybe I will just focus on that
    Me too hun, for both of us

  9. #27
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    Jan 2008
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    Your right. I dont know why Im letting insignificant people make me feel like this. I am happy with my decision, so is DF. Oh I have dreams about this c section. How great it will be. Hearing a screaming baby etc. Maybe I will just focus on that
    Ahurani, you're CS will be beautiful. Hearing your baby cry for the first time will be the sweetest sound in the world. If I was you I think I'd have an elective CS at 37 weeks too. I think a major componant of having a positive birth is being in control of the decisions and doing what you're comfortable with, so you're off to a good start

  10. #28
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    I think you're doing the right thing. You can't sacrifice your peace of mind and mental health in order to make others happy. Screw them. Your getting your baby and your getting them the best way you know how.

  11. #29
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    Oct 2008
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    this is the best way for us.
    This right here is all that matters No one has the right to make you justify yourself. Unless someone has walked a day in your shoes they cannot even begin to question your choices. If this was me I'm sure I would be doing exactly what you're planning to too

  12. #30
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    This makes me really sad to read. People should be there to support and help you in anyway they can. Who is anyone to judge another persons personal choice that will have no affect on themselves. Your doing what is right for you, your DH and your bubba. I support you 100%.

  13. #31
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    It's your decision and that's all that matters. Tell em to stick it! Whoever is telling you that you should do it any other way probably won't remember how your baby came into the world anyway. We're right here behind you, hun.

  14. #32
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    Jul 2008
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    Oh hun, like you need that right now. I all for natural birth, but if I was in your situation I would be doing the exact same thing. I would not even consider a different way.

    We are all behind you, there it's no judgement here. Just love and support.

    Xxxx

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  15. #33
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    You know I think the best way to handle this is to avoid all conversations about the birth. It erks me no end when people who have never been in another persons shoes pass judgements like this.

    You don't owe anyone an explanation nor do you need to feel obligated to justify a decision that you have made as an educated woman.

    A birth is a birth, sunroof or tunnel, as long as both the mother and baby are ok thats all that really matters and people forget this most important rule.

    I wanted to say more but its pretty much been covered by everyone else. Love and strength to you hun x

    Nae x

  16. #34
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    U know what, make them feel bad and turn around and tell people, my last baby DIED while i was in labour, that'll shut them up quick smart.
    love u gorgeous, dont ever feel anything but proud, i said it to u last time, before hayley was due, doesnt matter how they come out, so long as they do

  17. #35
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    As I said last night..I'm with you 100000%. Every. Step. Of. The. Way!
    (ps I hope I didn't make you feel like that last night??)

  18. #36
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    U know what, make them feel bad and turn around and tell people, my last baby DIED while i was in labour, that'll shut them up quick smart.
    Good call.

    I absolutely trust your ability to make the right decision.

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