I already feel like I am being judged.

[Ahurani]

Thanks girls. I hope I'm just not overreacting. I dont think I am. But I feel I need to put it out there now.

I have never judged anyone for the way they wanted to give birth. Yes, I do have my opinions on different kinds of births etc, but I would never put my opinions onto anyone else. They are uninformed. I don't sit there and read through every method etc.

Peanutter: I think Im so alright with the thought of another C section because with Miss H, I didnt really care how she came out as long as she was okay and I was. *hugs*

Tash: No. These people havent been in my position. Thats what irks me the most.

Ive also had people say "37 weeks?!?". Yes, 37 weeks. My ob told me that at 37 weeks they are cooked. I'm sure if I get to 37 weeks and he doesn't think that he/she is ready to come out yet he wouldnt C section then. I have also had the "private hospital? just because your going to one doesnt mean it is all going to be okay". Yes, I know that. But it's my ob Im there for not the hospital.

Anyway, Ill stop ranting now. Thanks everyone for all your support. I'm sure you will all be behind me *hugs*

[EsJay]

It's your choice and your business, no one elses. You have made your decision, all thats left to be said is enjoy your pregnancy.
people make this choice all the time, and not always with a reason behind it, so why should you (or anyone for that matter) be judged?
wishing you a h & h pregnancy

[skybie]

U know what, make them feel bad and turn around and tell people, my last baby DIED while i was in labour, that'll shut them up quick smart.
love u gorgeous, dont ever feel anything but proud, i said it to u last time, before hayley was due, doesnt matter how they come out, so long as they do

[luna moth]

U know what, make them feel bad and turn around and tell people, my last baby DIED while i was in labour, that'll shut them up quick smart.

Good call.

I absolutely trust your ability to make the right decision.

[NaeNae]

U know what, make them feel bad and turn around and tell people, my last baby DIED while i was in labour.

I have actually said something similar (different situation to yours though) and I swear it works but not something you would use everytime. Sometimes its the quick, rudely said few words like mentioned above that really makes people think twice before they do it again

[starangelk]

Stand by your decision Hun, I totally support you Xx

[kelebek]

I couldn't agree more with previous posters, this is your life, your pregnancy, your baby, your choice!!

Is it possible to be vague about how you plan to birth? maybe if someone asks you you could reply by asking them what position they had sex last night... a bit of a hint that it is none of thier business.

it is awful that you are feeling this pressure already.

[Beautiful Disaster]

Have the people judging you been in your shoes? Did they have an emergebcy cs under GA? Have they held their dead baby in their arms? Did they go home with empty arms? Do they want to try that on, even for just one day? I bet they havent and I bet they dont.

I cant believe you're dealing with this already. I have no idea what we'll do, if we ever get that far again but there's no way in hell I'm going to 40 weeks. I will do what's best for me, the baby and my DH. Mental health is a huge part of handling subsequent pregnancies and births. If a scheduled cs means who dont lose your mind and you take home a living child, then that's a wonderful, empowered birth for you.

People are entitled to an opinion. In this case, they should exercise the option of keeping their ill-informed opinions to themselves.

I was just trying to word this right and Tashy has said it perfectly. Tell them to bugger off.

[Sopdet]

I fully support you in your decision. In your position I would do the same thing. If anybody wants to have an issue with it - send them my way and I'll give them what for!

Honestly it doesn't matter how bubs comes out, as long as bubs comes out and your end goal is to have bubba come home with you alive. So this choice is what you've made and it is the best for you in YOUR situation.

I'm proud of you!

[zap]

Your baby, your body, your choice.

All the best. Xoxo

[HotI]

Your baby, your body, your choice.

Yep, not sure why others are even thinking about how you will birth your bub at this stage. Try to ignore and focus you energy on the things important to you.

[kelsbels]

I am having an elective Caesar at 38 weeks and I HAVEN'T been through what you have, hugs.

I couldn't care less what people think of my decision, it's not something that was taken lightly and it was done in discussion with my ob after my failed induction with DD. I've already copped it from a mother at playgroup who told me it was obviously more convenient for me and She assumed it was too hard for me to try a vbac. This from a mother who didn't breastfeed for absolutely no good reason, did I judge her for that? No cos it wasn't my decision to make.

We are judged through our entire journey as a mother but I think you have to make a decision and take responsibility for that decision and to hell with what anyone else thinks. Don't defend yourself, why should you? You have absolutely no reason to.

Fwiw, I loved my Caesar and I hope you will too hon!

[Ahurani]

Your right. I dont know why Im letting insignificant people make me feel like this. I am happy with my decision, so is DF. Oh I have dreams about this c section. How great it will be. Hearing a screaming baby etc. Maybe I will just focus on that

[blessedatlast]

Oh I have dreams about this c section. How great it will be. Hearing a screaming baby etc. Maybe I will just focus on that

Me too hun, for both of us

[~mamaspice~]

Your right. I dont know why Im letting insignificant people make me feel like this. I am happy with my decision, so is DF. Oh I have dreams about this c section. How great it will be. Hearing a screaming baby etc. Maybe I will just focus on that

Ahurani, you're CS will be beautiful. Hearing your baby cry for the first time will be the sweetest sound in the world. If I was you I think I'd have an elective CS at 37 weeks too. I think a major componant of having a positive birth is being in control of the decisions and doing what you're comfortable with, so you're off to a good start

[KitFaerie]

I think you're doing the right thing. You can't sacrifice your peace of mind and mental health in order to make others happy. Screw them. Your getting your baby and your getting them the best way you know how.

[~Hestia~]

this is the best way for us.

This right here is all that matters No one has the right to make you justify yourself. Unless someone has walked a day in your shoes they cannot even begin to question your choices. If this was me I'm sure I would be doing exactly what you're planning to too

[Kazzo]

This makes me really sad to read. People should be there to support and help you in anyway they can. Who is anyone to judge another persons personal choice that will have no affect on themselves. Your doing what is right for you, your DH and your bubba. I support you 100%.