Puppies i think being fully informed (as you are) and not being bullied are very important in a woman's decisions about birth. My only concern (and i will voice it hopefully with you in the knowledge that i believe in woman centred care for ALL women, no matter their choices) is that you HAVE been bullied, though inisidious fear, into this decision. I have seen your other threads and i feel angered that at so many times in your journey so far people have been putting doubts into your mind about birth.

I suppose what i'm trying to say is that i want you to have the birth you want, but i want you to WANT it, not choose it as the default you have been made to feel less afraid of. There are so many factors which might influence our choice but fear is surely the one which leaves us most open to regret after the event. In choosing to attempt a surgical birth rather than i vaginal one, i want you to feel empowered by the freedom of your choice and not cowed by disbelief in yourself into making a decision you might not have otherwise. I hope i'm making sense. I know that i feel the general disbelief that a healthy woman can grow and birth her babies that abounds has felt like bullying to me, and i would hate to you have made this choice because some crappy midwife filled you with fear, or some clueless radiographer scared you with a very early guesstimate which is still completely within "normal" (my DD was born on the 75th %ile and was still under 8lbs when born, 11 days overdue). This is a big ramble, please please know that this is coming from a good place. I don't think you should have a vaginal birth, i think you should have the birth you REALLY want.

If you feel you are taking your path through FREE CHOICE, and without the influence of fear-mongering and doubt from others, if you know in your bones this is what you truly WANT, then you know you have made the right decision.

I wish you a peaceful and joyful birth hun.

Much loves

Bx