kick my while i'm down

[alioops]

Hun, You know hindsight is 20/20. Do you think it might be healing to get alongside this girl and tell her that you had a horrible birth experience and want to help her to have a reat experience? It may be healing for you to help someone to do the research, and to really encourage her to have a birth.

You know we are all here for you.

You know what? I think you ARE strong. You are doing everything you can to help you process the way your children came into this world. You are not sitting back and keeping quiet about how you feel. You are healing yourself, and you need to be srong to do that.

Just remember, You are never alone, and when you need us, we are there.

[Sammiejane]

i know how you feel

Sounds like i could have written that post in parts...
I however researched birthing loads and loads, but when it came to the big day it all went out the window...
My problem was that i didnt have enough support either, i would have fought tooth and nail for someone else, but i didnt have that support for me.

I go back over and over the mistakes that i made and want to cry.
The best thing that i did to help heal those wounds (the emotional ones) is post on here and find out that i wasnt alone and that others had similar experiences to me.

I still feel slight resentment towards friends that have wonderful natural births and i wonder what that would e like, how it would have been for me...

Take care of yourself it does get easier

[bon]

Hun - the girl at the gym was right - you ARE strong because you HAVE given birth. Its still giving birth, whether by c/s or vaginally, and neither way is any easier

[mykids]

Thank you everyone for your support ...was feeling pretty low when I posted that.
I am finding it hard to open up it is not something I am use to and soooooo appreciate any of you that gives me the time of day...its nice to have people to talk to about stuff you think you cant tell the people around you and its nice to tell people who know how you feel.

I am a little suprised about my feelings towards my births because I have been through much worse situations than this before. I guess the other situations I am referring too were mostly out of my control but with this it is the overwhelming dissapointment in myself that I am struggling the most with...I guess I just need to wait it out

My sister had her scan today and she is 6wks and hasnt changed her mind about terminating. I dont know how to be supportive I feel so sad about it.

thanks again I appreciate your support so very much and I particularly enjoy the hugs

[Mrsmac77]

I also had a c/s for my first child 4 mths ago. I just wouldn't dialate past 4cm (I swear that measurment will haunt me lol) but i guess I always look at the bigger picture. Every labour is different and the experience of bringing a life into the world should be your focus rather than how.. I try to remember all the good parts like how my husband was excited to wear scrubs (idiot made me take a photo) and how so many people worked together in the theatre to bring my son into the world and that the pediatrician took photos for us so my husband could hold my hand.. We are lucky we live in a country and during a time that with complications we are still able to have babies with limited pain to us and limited distress to our bubs.. c/s should be celebrated as we are lucky that its an option.. You shouldn't be dissapointed in something you had no control over.. If we could all prepare and control our labours they would be quick, easy and pain free haha!