Hi Jessica

I just wanted to pop in and offer you support and warm wishes really, I don't think I have much information to add.

I am considering an elective caesarean if I have a second baby and while I don't feel the need to justify that decision (I'm a lot more confident in my decision-making these days LOL), I'll just explain why to get across the point that everyone has different circumstances and everyone has to do what's best for them.

I had a VB last time and although it was very long and DD was posterior and it ended in a forceps delivery, on the whole I was pretty damned pleased with myself at the time. Except that, I suffered from SPD (unstable pelvis) throughout the pregnancy but was told that it would go away soon after the birth. I had not done enough research and did not know that the position I was put in for 2.5 hours with my knees against my chest to push DD out was the worst possible position I could be in for my SPD. DIdn't feel a thing at the time because I'd had an epidural BUT I was in chronic pain for six months afterwards unable to walk, stand or bend and even now, 15 months later I am still not back to normal. My lack of mobility left me housebound for six months and my relationship with DP suffered immeasurably.

So I am left with a choice of having to dot every i and cross every t if I want another VB, having a doula, writing a detailed birth plan that says EXACTLY what positions will be bad for me ... or, pushing for an elective caesar. And at the moment, even though I'm not even pregnant, I am veering towards a caesar.

Now if anyone REALLY tried to talk me out of that in a judgemental way, I'd tell them where to get off. It's my body, I decide what I want to do with it.