Kelly - Thankyou for posting that information about differentiation and personal growth. I have been thinking about some of those things already in regards to my experience and why I have held onto my negative feelings about it. There is much food for thought there for me. I know exactly what aspects of my personality and core beliefs have made it difficult for me to accept my experience. I do believe it will be a huge waste or tragedy (if I can use that word) if I went through what I did and I don't learn/change/grow for the better.
I just want to state that I know other people's posts or opinions or experiences can't make me feel anything. I choose my feelings. I am happy for others that have positive experiences of birth (regardless of how!), even though sometimes that's difficult for me to read. But that's about the headspace I'm in when I go into those threads.
Skeetaboat - hun your post didn't upset me. Thank you for your reply - it clarified for me what your message is and I think we do largely agree. In thinking about your words and my situation, I was very adament that I wasn't having a c-section. I thought sheer determination and an awareness of the 'casade' effect would be enough (how misguded huh?). I had a problem free pg until the last few days so to be labouring one minute and in theatre 20mins later was a shock. And I see what you're saying, even if my c-section had been complication free, I probably still would have struggled to accept it occurred (although not to the degree I do now).
FWIW I have read quite a few 'positive' c-section birth stories in my time on BB (although they didn't change my opinion that they are unnecessary and unacceptably risky except in medical emergency situations). I encourage you to share your (positive) story if you have one. Because I agree that they are not negative for everyone, as the OP and article outline.
Perhaps we should be getting away from the 'positive' vs. 'negative' spin on our 'stories' altogether? (myself included of course!). And just treat them as stories without judgement, taking only information and experience from them.
Last edited by ~Kaz~; January 13th, 2010 at 09:09 AM.
: Was still choosing my words when the last few posts were made - Skeetaboat, your choice hun. xx
hun your post didn't upset me. Thank you for your reply - it clarified for me what your message is and I think we do largely agree. In thinking about your words and my situation, I was very adament that I wasn't having a c-section. I thought sheer determination and an awareness of the 'casade' effect would be enough (how misguded huh?). I had a problem free pg until the last few days so to be labouring one minute and in theatre 20mins later was a shock. And I see what you're saying, even if my c-section had been complication free, I probably still would have struggled to accept it occurred (although not to the degree I do now).
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