In praise of the C-Section

[BellyBelly]

child birth is a spirtial developement in someone so there for people will be emotional about it.

Indeed it is Maz Which is why I have chosen homebirth for next time, so I get that. But when it takes over your life and how you interact with people for an extended period, it can have detrimental effects. Like I said in an earlier post, we all grieve, digest and dissect. But when we use the negative resulting feelings to blame others for how we feel, then we're on the very wrong track to inner peace/healing. Only when you look inside can you do that, keep looking externally and you'll have those emotions for a VERY long time, and who wouldn't be happier without feelings of failure, judgement and all the rest?

[maz]

WTG Kell on the homebirth and next one something you wanna share

Some people can handle their greif others look for scape goat's and whether its due to a bad birth or something entirely different we have all been guilty of shift blame onto someone.

Yes...I agree fullheartedly hon about not allowing the emotions to take over our lives...depression is not a fun ride to be on. Reading material when your already in a self distructive state of mind can push you over the edge and can come across as a slap in the face from those who have never experienced what you have gone through physically and emotional. Everyone is different and there fore we process things differently.

What may come across to some as educating peoples choices may come across as preaching the unknown.

[BellyBelly]

How do they know you've not experienced it Maz, and that you're not basing it on what helped drag you out of the depths? It's really difficult to wait for a 'right' moment... because bad can quickly turn very serious without intervention, if it's that bad. The work I have based the advice on is successfully used with people going through one extreme to the other... loss of a family member, cancer... serious things. There's no waiting for those people. Sometimes we need a wake-up call (gosh knows I did) and for me, that came right in the middle of the worst of it.

*mwa*