FWIW, I don't feel like anyone owes me an explanation of their decisions and choices. I just want people to be their own agents on not be railroaded by other people's agendas. I also want people to know the REAL array of risks (not just the ones wrapped in ribbons by medicos with lots of reasons not to have the woman's best interests at heart) before making choices, otherwise the 'choices' are hollow.
Billy Ocean - plenty of times I've been edged out of 'the club' for not taking drugs for birth...go figure!