happy healthy mother and baby is that not what we all want
Yep! And after my emergency c/section, I was neither happy, or healthy. And everytime someone said "you have a healthy baby" I wanted to punch them.

Because saying that is the same as saying that I didn't matter. That what I went through didn't matter. That I should just shut up and be grateful.

Which is why I feel so passionately that other women who find themselves in the situation I was once in, have their feelings heard and validated.