Sometimes what is needed is to listen to (or read) other perspectives and experiences, and to accept that we might not understand or even agree, but that it still a valid story or opinion to be shared.
Too true, and I think the thing too is that I don't assume that if someone is having a c/s that they are daft and haven't given it a seconds thought. Nor do I automatically assume all emerg c/s are unnecessary. But the thing is there shouldn't be unnecessary ones. There shouldn't be Dr's doing a procedure that their patient would rather do without purely because its more convenient to them. It should always be about choice, a woman who has been through a traumatic birth experience and she wants a c/s fine, a woman who has deep issues with the thought of a vag birth totally fine, a medical emergency to save baby or mother or both absolutely, but because the dr thinks it will be easier... thats not fair. I support choice, but I don't support bullying of either side. I wouldn't want a woman to be bullied into a VBAC because chances are if she's not 100% she'll probably end up with complications due to stress anyway, and I am definitely against a c/s for a woman who doesn't need one and is dead against it because similarly it will lead to trauma post birth. I definitely don't have all the answers, but I think that women who do choose a c/s should do so proudly, own it. It doesn't matter what the reason was, if you wanted it thats it end of story. But I also think that those that don't want it should be receiving the same amount of respect.

*hugs*
Cailin