Niether should you sugar coat your experience Flea. It's yours and it sounds painful. This forum isn't about keeping quiet so no-one gets upset. When we own our experiences (as you have) and express our feelings in a sense of ownership (as you have) it's not your issue if someone feels hurt. I think you are courageous and BIG for sharing...

Berry: I am sorry you are feeling as you are. I still don't understand why if you are speaking of this thread as I have seen no evidence of criticisim. But your path is yours and it's never nice to know someone is feeling hurt.