The best advice I can give you is to make sure you ask lots of questions about exactly why in your case this might be needed. You need to understand and be at peace with the decision, because for me after the event it was even harder to process and you begin to wonder whether you could have done things differently. Remember that it is your decision, and you need to make it an informed decision, it isn't up to the doctor (although I don't condone going against his advice - you need to make sure you take it on board).
In terms of the practicalities, you can only get what you ask for!!! Make sure you tell them that it is important for you to hold if possible or at least touch your baby and get a good look at him before he needs to go. Make sure you ask how long they expect that he could handle before he needs to go and ask for all of this time to be spent with you.
There should be no issues in terms of getting photos. In fact when mum and bubs need to be separated, I think it is seen as preferable that the mum has some photos. You can even request that a nurse get photos as he comes out of you (I didn't do this and still have trouble connecting that my baby came from me!). But remember, you will only get these things if you make it clear that you want them.
I recommend that you look at writing a birth plan for your c-section. Have a look around here and online elsewhere and you'll see what others have done and use that as a basis. Make it clear what you want and discuss the whole thing with your ob.
Also, you will need to consider whether breastfeeding your bub is important to you, and if so discuss with your ob how you can make this possible in your situation.
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