I don't know what to do

[*Efjay*]

I have posted bits & pieces from time to time about Evans behaviour.
Well I think I am at breaking point. I am sure the crap night sleep, the impending cold I have cought of Isla & being pregnant (hormones) is making it all seem worse this morning but I just don't know what to do any more, how to handle Evan's outburst.

A little glimpse of our mornings...
I got up & Evan was already sitting up with DH watching him play computer games (what DH does in the mornings before getting ready for work. Evan likes to sit & watch. I came out & said how I went to go get Evan up but it was Glenn in his place. Evan said nothing.
I then came out again asking what he would like for lunch, its canteen day, would you like lasagne? All I got in response was a shake of the head for no & nothing more. didn't reply when I asked what he would like instead, just sat there with a sour look on his face.

So I walked off & said fine, I will just make your lunch then. So I did that & then asked if was going to to catch the bus this morning. Again he said No. Normally when DH starts later it the morning for work, its his "special" thing to take Evan tot he bus stop. I was really wanting him to catch the bus this morning as Isla was up all night (as I) with a cough & was still sleeping, so if I could leave her to sleep I would.

I made him some toast & gave it to him & asked him to eat it then come out & get dressed for school. "whats that?, whats on it? Im not eating that!"
And so the fun really begins. I just walked off &left him to it. He later came out to the living room where I said to get dressed. This boy never gets himself dressed, he can, he just doesn't. Its easier to just do it myself rather then argue every item of clothing. When he wouldn't do it, I started to put his soaks on. He pulled them off. I put them on again & he pulled them off & threw them across the room. I told him he needs to get dressed & to cut it out or he will get a smack. So he starts trying to stare me down. He got a smack (not proud of that). He then still kept on with not getting dressed, kicked & hit me so I pulled him up & said fine you can go to school in your PJ's, there is your school bag, now off you go to get the bus! He yelled at me that I was a stupid thing! So I sent him to his room, well actually dragged him to his room then went off to sulk in my own.

Dh got him to calm down & have some breakfast & eventually get dressed. He also drove him to school, which will make him late for work but could see I wasn't in the mood to deal with him any longer.

I was sitting out here when DH came out & I said that there is something wrong Evan, this behaviour has been ongoing since he was about 3, maybe even younger.
Dh thinks its just that he isn't a morning person & that he is like me. Meaning that both Evan & I butt heads & both fly off the handle at the drop of a hat.

Now ok, I may react badly to most situations, which aggravate the situation but I HAVE tried other approaches. Nothing changes. I don't think its normal for a now 6 yr old to behave the way Evan does. I have seen this behaviour in older kids & kinda laughed it off with the parent saying how much fun it will be if it continues on. The response I usually get is the behaviour I am seeing in their 10 / 11 yr old is a new thing. All I can think is great & I have been getting it for bloody years already!

After Dh got back from dropping him off I said Its more then just him not being a morning person I am concerned that there is more too it & its not fair that DH is dismissing it.
He said well there are people I can talk to about it. Who? Who do I call?
I don't feel comfortable going to his teacher, I don't know if his school even has a counsellor. I don't want to break down in tears in front of someone I don't know. I don't want to admit to a stranger that I can't handle his outbursts & I don't know what to do.

I don't like that I sit here not liking the Evan I have at the moment. I don't like that I can hardly see the keyboard as I type through my blubbering.

I love Evan, of course I love him, but I don't like him at the moment. That sounds so horrible & is so hard to write/say. Maybe its not the right way to describe it but its all I can come up with.

Everything is a battle with him. From the moment he gets up to the moment he falls asleep its a battle over something. Breakfast, getting dressed, getting in the car, out the car. COming home from school it starts the moment he steps out of his class room, what did you buy me, where did you go, have you got something special for me at home, can I go to so n so's house, can they come over to ours.
All that before I even start the car! Get home & its I want this, I want that.
Dinner time is out the window every night, I hate dinner time the most I think. He wont eat anything I make unless its chips.
Getting in the bath, getting out the bath.

He wont got to sleep without one of us with im (DH at the moment) he doesn't fall asleep any earlier then 9.30 regardless of how early the bed time slot is.

Every moment of pretty much every day there is an argument about doing something, getting something done.

I just don't know what to do any more. Glenn & Isla don't carry on like Evan so it can't all just be my parenting.... can it?