Amy, I think just knowing she has a safety net in you is such a big thing. Well done for trying to make a difference in her life. I have no doubt that your love and care are making an impression on her.
How are your other sisters coping with the situation?
Thank you all so much for your well wishes! I know i will be back here asking for more advice no doubt haha. I know im jumping in way over my head and tbh im sick of people giving me 'that look' when i tell them!! Haha. Id much rather have tried and been unsuccessful then never tried at all IYKWIM?
My other two sisters ... hmm well i know the 15YO will be glad to see the back of her and the 10YO will no doubt miss her, but we will visit every chance we get The 15YO and 'A' go to the same school and it was starting to affect her as well with people coming up to her saying stuff about 'A' which is why i think she is glad she's going IYKWIM.
One of my neighbours has a 13YO daughter with her head screwed on so fingers crossed they become friends and she becomes a positive influence on 'A'.
Mum called me last week and said "i heard the suburb you live in is nice..." i said yes it is very nice, great school, lots of parks, lots of sport. "And how far is school from your house" i said about 100m down the road..."are there any shopping centres or anything where she would want to skip school and go to?" .. not really, just a woolies, doctors, chemist, vid store, bakery, butcher..like a food type shopping square? i knew then mum knew it was the right thing to do, i could just hear it in her voice, she just needed to be reassured she wasnt going to a hole with a bad school. Fingers crossed we're doing the right thing!!
Would it be a good idea for your Mum to come down for a few days to help settle her in? It would ease your Mum's mind and also give her a point of reference so that she can continue to build a relationship with your sister. At the very least, I'd try forwarding her an image of your street, details of the school, anything else that's on the web and would put her mind at rest. I know when I left home young it gave my Mum great comfort when I gave her information about where I was living and what went on in the area.
Unfortunately its not an option for mum to come up at this stage, she wouldnt be able to get the time off work, but i have forwarded her all information on the school, and was actually planning on taking photos of the house/ 'A's room etc (when i tidied up a bit ) so i hope that helps a bit!
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Amy, I think just knowing she has a safety net in you is such a big thing. Well done for trying to make a difference in her life. I have no doubt that your love and care are making an impression on her.
and the 10YO will no doubt miss her, but we will visit every chance we get
The 15YO and 'A' go to the same school and it was starting to affect her as well with people coming up to her saying stuff about 'A' which is why i think she is glad she's going IYKWIM.
) so i hope that helps a bit!
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