I just typed a huge post and then went to post and lost it...

Im one of four girls. im 22, then my next sister is 15, 13 and then 10.

The issue my mum is having is with my 13YO sister, ill refer to her as 'A'.

'A' has always been rebellious, she ditched her first day of school in grade 3. Sat in the bush next to the school until home time. There have been a lot more issues since then but i'll fast forward a few years...

Mum moves from one suburb to another a few hours north. Fresh start for 'A'.

Last year ('A' is 12) i get a call from mum letting me know 'A' is in hospital, she has had her stomach pumped from alcohol poisoning...she was found passed out, in a park, in the rain...by the police. I call her at the hospital and she's chilling out watching movies doesnt phase her at all..

Suspended a few times from school, mum does what she can to dicipline. Grounded, phone taken away, no internet, no ipod...nothing. She steals mums phone, leaves the house whenever she pleases and somehow got a hold of a modem for the computer (mum has to hide parts of the computer or 'A' is up until all hours of the morning on it, regardless of what mum has said)

After the alocohol incident she was sent to councelling where she sat in silence for the whole time, then when mum asks what they talked about 'A' tells mum the questions and answers to which mum asked well why didnt you say that to the councilor? "I dunno"

Mum has been to countless doctors and they all say the same thing "oh gotta love teenagers" or "ahh typical teenage girl". Thats not right, this isnt typical. She absolutely lets go and throws things around her room or yells the nastiest things at people she can think then goes all quiet and a few hours later will break down in tears apologizing and not knowing why she does it. She has said to mum on a few occassions she doesnt know why she does the things she does...

She asks mum if she can go out mum says no she goes anyway..she asks for a lift somewhere mum says no youre grounded so she calls one of her older friends to come pick her up...She was recently found hanging out with an 18YO little did he know she was 13 and he could get in A LOT of trouble should anything have happened...my uncle has litterally chased a boy (the boy in his car my uncle running) down the street as he has been told to stay away from her but he doesnt listen...

Mum phoned me before in hysterics tonight as 'A' had taken the keys of mums partners car and tried to drive it down the driveway until she got caught then ran into her room and slammed the door, her and mum argued with 'A' screaming "just give up on me mum, give up on me" then she ran away bawling...

'A' and i are so extremely similar in everyway...looks, attitude EVERYTHING, so i guess thats why i feel for her and why i am so upset by this all. her next step is to come live with me but mum doesnt want her to as thats just running away and she always ends up back at mums, which i get but i just want to help her. Im affraid shes going to get in too deep to get out. Like when i was a kid, if i threw a tantrum and half way through knew i was wrong i would keep the tantrum up as i was too embarassed to admit i was wrong so would rather be overtly angry then admit i was wrong and suck it up, i feel 'A' is the same but more extreme IYKWIM

So 1. i just needed to get that off my chest but 2. i was wondering if anyone had any advice, or and idea where to go from here. I cant stop crying thinking of what she is doing to her life! Please dont reply with "dicipline" mum has tried everything 'A' just doesnt listen and short of chaining her to the house there is nothing that will keep that girl in the house...she does what she wants when she wants...

She gets suspended and its like a holiday for her, her guidence councillor at school knows what she is like and is trying to help mum best he can but theres only so much he can do.

Help?