Yep - you got it, the room sharing is what keeps my DD in line too

If that mother truly had DD's best interests at heart she would have called you to discuss it. However, if she does leave - don't rely on Clink to call you to confirm - call them yourself and let them know. They called me when DD was threatening to go, but they didn't call exH when his daughter left (and told a WHOLE heap of shocking lies -on the advice of the people she lived with), and I know they didn't call another friend of mine about her DD either.

Let the other mother know she will not be receiving any financial support for DD if she does go - maybe ask why she feels its necesarry to give your DD a bed. Then set the record straight. Grrrrrr, I hate that.