Danielle, I just wanted to pop back to say also that don't think you have to spend that day being a Domestic Goddess and being Wonder Woman at home. Don't feel guilty if you want to use some or all of that day "faffing about" having coffee and doing a bit of window-shopping or whatever. Something that helps you to relax and find yourself a little bit.

I really think that you've been through a hell of a lot these last few years and that it's now time to nurture yourself and think about what you want from the next phase of your life.

I know this is a bit OT but I think seeing a counsellor might also be good. From what I've read of your other posts, it sometimes seems that you don't have many people around you who are good listeners and appreciate you for the really kind and generous person that you are. I know when I've seen a counsellor it's immensely comforting just to hear someone say, "hell yes, you've had a rough trot."

Really what I'm saying is that I think you deserve the absolute best from life!!!